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How To Talk To Your Boyfriend After A Fight

By Mason White 2:34 PM January 4, 2017
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By: Michelle Parker

Before you try to make up with your boyfriend after a fight, you have to know that fights and arguments for women are about emotions, but for men it’s about logic.

First, think about what led to the fight.

What is it that bothers you about your boyfriend or his actions?

Wait and discuss it only when he and you are calm.

Start the conversation by letting him know what you love about him.

Be open, let him know what you want him to do, or how you want him to change.

Do you want him to spend more time with you?
Do you want him to change a habit such as putting his dirty laundry in a hamper or clear the table after he eats?

If the issue causes you to begin arguing again, then let it go and stop.

If you have a hard time getting your point across, you can take a pen and paper, and write down what you would like to tell your boyfriend.

Start the letter by telling him how much you love him and what he means to you. Then write about the issue you are having.

This may seem simple and old fashioned, but it is very effective as he will read what you wrote without interfering with your thought process.

Hand him the letter only when he is in a good mood and walk away. Give him time to read it and process the thoughts.

You do not have to discuss it after he read your side of the story. Don’t go back to the issue and don’t bring it up unless he does.

For the next month, whenever you see your boyfriend doing the thing that you asked him, compliment him.

Let him know how much you appreciate his efforts as he is clearly doing it to make you happy and because he loves you.