How To Get Your Partner To Lose Weight

Woman lost weight (illustration)
By: Michelle Parker

When you meet someone, the first thing you see is their looks.

This is why they say “love at first sight.”

Looks are important.

Although you probably fell in love with your partner due to many reasons such as their intelligence or good, fun-loving or caring nature, looks played a large role in your decision to be with them.

However, after you committed to the relationship and you are deeply in love with your partner, things change and your partner can gain weight.

Now, you want them to lose weight, but you don’t want to offend them by telling them that they look fat. What can you do?

First, it is important to know what changed. What caused your partner to gain weight.

If it is an emotional issue, then that has to be addressed before you can talk about losing the weight.

If your partner began eating a lot more after a loved one passed away, then you have to give the person a fair amount of time to grieve the loss.

Give the person a lot of emotional support so that they feel understood. After a while, things will settle and you will “have your partner back.”

If the person eats out of depression, then once again, your partner needs your love, emotional support and maybe professional counseling.

However, if your partner eats out of boredom or they just let themselves go, then you can help them without saying anything.

Many people feel that they will hurt their partner if they express their concern over their weight.

Here are some ways to encourage your partner to eat healthier and do more exercise without hurting them.

Be a role model. Eating healthy and exercising is good for you and your health as well.

Surprise your partner and take them on long romantic walks or bike rides. If you have young children, you can take them along in a stroller bike seat.

Use the walks to strengthen your relationship. Talk about happy things so that you both enjoy it and it does not feel like a chore.

Start shopping for more healthy foods and snacks. If junk food is in the house, it will be consumed. Cut up fruits and vegetables, and make it look appetizing. Leave the healthy food on the table and you should eat it.

After seeing the fruits and vegetables laid out nicely, your partner will likely grab some and see that the taste is not as bad as they thought.

It might not be easy for you to buy and prepare the healthy snacks or go on walks, especially if you are fit.

However, If you truly love your partner and you want them to lose weight it is very much worth the effort.

Once your partner eats healthier and exercises, they will begin to lose weight and feel better about themselves. Then they will have the willpower to pursue it by themselves without you pushing them to do so.